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Would You Get Engaged Without Receiving A Ring?

Posted in Uncategorized with tags , , , , , , , on January 15, 2010 by B. Jones

Today my friend and I were discussing college students getting engaged and I couldn’t help mentioning a classmate of ours who got engaged a month before we went to college.  As a female when I hear someone is engaged I can’t help, but ask about the ring.  I know for a fact that if were to get engaged I’d be posting pictures all on my Facebook page so my friends would see my three stone  princess-cut Tiffany’s ring ring.  I waited and waited for her to post photos up, but she never did.  Because she didn’t post pictures I asked her if she was really engaged because people liked to get Facebook engaged for some reason.  To my astonishment she really was engaged.  I saw her about four months later and the first thing I wanted to see was her ring.  I grabbed her hand and to my amazement I saw Continue reading

The Power of the P*ssy

Posted in January 2010, Life with tags , , , , , , , , on January 12, 2010 by B. Jones

Today I had to read the story of creation for my Classical Mythology class and of course it included the story of Adam & Eve.  I don’t care what your religious beliefs are 9 times out of 10 you will know the story of Adam & Eve even if you grew up in an atheist household you’ve had friends recant the story for you at least once.  Well, while I was reading a this story (something I haven’t read in YEARS!) I realized how much power woman has had over man since the beginning of time.  Despite Adam being here first and knowing that God told him not to eat from the Tree of Knowledge he caved in after Eve told him to try it out because it was good.

As we all know, Adam was lonely for a couple of years before God realized he needed a partner in life.  It’s stated that “…a man shall leave his father and his mother and cling to his wife.” (Genesis 2: 25) Just reading the word “cling” makes me think that God was sitting Adam up for failure with this woman. Continue reading

When They Come Crawling Back

Posted in January 2010, Life with tags , , , , , , on January 8, 2010 by B. Jones

Hey readers!  I haven’t done a decent post in a minute and I apologize.  So much has been going on in my life lately.  I just turned 20 a few days ago, school started back up for Spring semester, and that means it’s study time.  I couldn’t quite figure out what to write for you all because I was having a serious case of writer’s block, but that all just changed a few minutes ago.  Why you ask?  Well I have this….male.  I met him during my 11th grade year of high school.  My aunt had tried to hook me up with him because she said he was a nice, polite, and cute young man that worked out at her job bagging groceries.  Well we use to talk and when we finally met up things didn’t go anywhere near expected.  He was the first guy that I had actually talked to in hopes of being in a relationship so when we decided to meet up I was so worried.  I had really low self-esteem back in my teenage years due to my acne so I prayed that when we met my personality would make him ignore the fact that I had teenage acne and left over scars.  When he called me to figure out where I was he said, “I don’t see you.  The only girl I see parked by the light pole is ugly.” At that moment my heart sunk.  I was the girl at the light pole and it’s moments like this when our flight or fight response kicks in.  I wanted to crank my car up and drive off, but in the back of my head I told myself no.  I stayed and I met him.  The one thing I remember about meeting him was when he told me, “I’m gonna take you out and show you things you’ve never seen before.” After our meeting he suddenly became…different. Continue reading

Keys to a Good Relationship

Posted in December 2009, Life, Relationship with tags , , , , , , on December 30, 2009 by B. Jones

As I sat at home today cleaning I remembered awhile back one of my dorm mates was discussing with me how she had just broke-up with her first boyfriend after I told her my two year anniversary was approaching.  I remember when I mentioned the length of my relationship she asked me what the key was to have a long-lasting relationship. Well I am not a relationship expert; in fact I’ve only dated one person.  Despite these minor flaws I have managed to stay with that one person for two years and we are still together (for young adults those years are often viewed as being the equivalent to dog years.)  I believe that there are common threads in all relationships that keep people together for 60 plus years and these same threads are what can cause a relationship to last only a few minor months.  So here are a few things that I think are keys to a good relationship.

1. Laughter-I think there is nothing sexier than a man who can make me laugh.  In fact, I’d probably date a butt ugly man who can make me laugh compared to a man who looked like Michael Ealy Continue reading

Five Things I Prefer To Only Do With Men

Posted in December 2009, Random with tags , , , , , , , , on December 16, 2009 by B. Jones

While I was over at one of my favorite blogs Until I Get Married one particular blog caught my eye entitled, Five Things I Can Only Do With WomenSo while I was driving home for Christmas Break I started thinking of things that I prefer to do only with a male companion.  So here we go, 5 Things I Prefer To Do With Men:

1.) See a scary movie-I don’t like scary movie, so if and when I watch a scary movie be it my house or the theater a man better be sitting next to me.  No offense to my fellow females who can go and see a scary movie without screaming, but when that music comes on letting the audience know that something is about to go down I want to grab onto a man’s arm (I’d prefer for the man to have a nice bicep, but beggars can’t be choosy.)  Following the movie I’d like to  be asked if I were scared (although they already know I was) with me responding “No,” and resulting in some hands on flirting.

2.) Ask how a dress looks-Okay, this depends on where I’m going.  If I’m looking for a dress to wear to the pastor’s church anniversary I’ll ask my Mom or some other female.  If I’m looking for a dress to wear to the club a male will be my voice of reason.  The reason being is that females try to be too critical of clothing. “Oh girl, that red just doesn’t look right with your complexion” or “I wouldn’t really like it for myself, but…”  I don’t care if you like it for yourself, it’s my dress.  A guy on the other, a straight one, will give you the opinion you want. “That looks sexy on you” or “That looks like something my mom would wear.” If I’m going to the club I want sexy, I don’t want any man to look at me and get flashbacks of their mom. Continue reading

Things A Man Should Never Say To Me During First Encounters

Posted in December 2009, Relationship with tags , , , , , on December 13, 2009 by B. Jones

Today is another rainy and cold day down in Georgia.  I have two finals tomorrow, but I had a spur of the moment thought about how I’ve only had one boyfriend yet plenty of dudes from my age all the way up to being eligible for AARP with one foot in the grave have hit on me.  I then realized that there was a reason as to why I didn’t talk to these men…the lines that they’d come at me with were ridiculous.  Now I am what many Black men classify as being a bougie, stuck-up light-skin chick who thinks she’s better then everyone.  This isn’t the case in fact I’m far from any of those things.  If the male population approached more women like myself in the correct manner you wouldn’t receive the cold shoulder everytime.  So here’s a list of things NOT to say to me or any other woman:

  1. “Ay girl…”-I believe on my birth certificate under “Name” it does not list me as being named “Girl.”  I know “Ay girl…” is usually followed by “…what’s your name,” but damn it why can’t you walk up to me in a nice gentleman type manner and say, “Excuse me, my name is (insert name here). What’s your name?” No matter a females mood I feel she’s obligated to reply in a nice manner to you.  From there you can spark up an interesting conversation.
  2. “Ay ma…”-(1) I did not push you out of my womb so I am not your “ma.” I will make an exception to this though.  If you’re Latino you have a pass to come up to me and call me “mamacita.” (2)  Saying this reminds me of how old married men start calling their wives “ma.” I’m 19, don’t make me feel old. Continue reading

Why I Will Always Love Tiger Woods

Posted in Uncategorized with tags , , , , on December 12, 2009 by B. Jones

Tiger Woods will forever be the first athlete I had a crush on.  When he hit the golf course in 1997 for his first Masters Tournament in my hometown of Augusta it was love at first sight.  My love and deep admiration for him continued all the way until he started bringing his soon to be wife, Elin, to the tournaments.  {I would like to note that his game went downhill for awhile when he got with her which just adds to the stereotype that a White woman will bring down a brother<—Yes, Tiger is a brother.  Screw that cablasian stuff.}  You see I have always thought that Tiger Woods was a handsome mixed man with intelligence (He went to Standford for those he didn’t know), athleticism (He’s a golfer, but he has the body of God from some ads I’ve seen), and did I mention his looks?  Yes, Tiger Woods made me want to pick up a set of golf clubs and wear his infamous red and black outfit that he would wear every Sunday for the last day of the Masters.  Black people loved him (even if he didn’t want to say he was one of us) and White people loved him even more.  If there was one thing that we all could agree upon it was that Tiger Woods changed the face of the golfing world and we all loved him.

Rewind back to a couple of weeks ago when it was reported that he got into a car accident and the sh*t hit the fan.  It was reported that his wife literally busted the windows out of his car when she found out he had a mistress.  Well, one mistress became two and two mistresses became thirteen. Continue reading

Things NOT To Say On Twitter: Swizz Beatz & Mashonda Edition

Posted in December 2009, Things NOT To Say On Twitter with tags , , , , , , , , , , on December 12, 2009 by B. Jones

If you were on Twitter last night following Swizz Beatz or Mashonda you would have witnessed some very sloppy and teenage antics.  I was never a follower of either of the above people, but one of the people that I’m following happened to mention how the former couple were venting through Twitter.  Being the nosy person I am I jumped onto following the two of them, and I was very SHOCKED to say the least.  Here’s the snapshots thanks to DDot Omen:

Now this is exactly why I don’t like things such as Twitter because sh*t like this is bound to go down.  This all happened because Swizz tweeted about going to get his girlfriend’s, Alicia Keys, new CD.  My feelings are as followed Continue reading

Things I Wish I Had Done Before I Came to College

Posted in December 2009, Life, Random with tags , , , , , , , on December 12, 2009 by B. Jones

So it’s finals week at my university and even though I banned myself from Facebook until they’re over I’ve found other ways to procrastinate and that’s through this blog.  So here’s a list of this I wish I’d done back in the day when my education was free and Daddy was paying for the gas to go in my car.

  1. Tried out to be a dancing girl-I love to dance behind closed doors, but I refuse to dance in front of most people.  Now at my school the dancing girls were the s**t and everyone knew that if you were one of them you were high school royalty.  I could have had a plethora of men lined up back then.  Oh well *Kayne shrug*
  2. Taken my acne medication religiously-I had HORRIBLE skin growing up and I still have the scars to prove it.  From about 7th grade to 11th grade my face looked like a nest of bees had went on the attack.  My Mom took me to the dermatologist numerous times.  The first one I went to gave me all this stuff that dried the hell out of my skin causing even more outbreaks.  The next one helped me by giving me medication through the form of pills which helped my skin so much, but the problem that happened was I got the big head and stopped taking those pills.  Which leads me to my next point… Continue reading

Is My Generation Growing Up To Settle On Being Nothing More Than The Baby Mama/Daddy?

Posted in December 2009, Relationship with tags , , , , , , , , on December 11, 2009 by B. Jones

Well, well, well…this entire week I couldn’t figure out what in the hell I was gonna write on here after my last post (Click Here To Read) which got the most hits during my 3 week blog life.  Then I went over to Necole Bitchie‘s blog and I had an idea.  The post that’s linked up to this blog is a reader’s response to Ms. Bitchie calling the father of one of Erykah Badu’s children her “baby’s father.”  The reader basically explained why she finds the word disgusting and I can’t agree/disagree with it more. Continue reading