Today my friend and I were discussing college students getting engaged and I couldn’t help mentioning a classmate of ours who got engaged a month before we went to college. As a female when I hear someone is engaged I can’t help, but ask about the ring. I know for a fact that if were to get engaged I’d be posting pictures all on my Facebook page so my friends would see my three stone princess-cut Tiffany’s ring ring. I waited and waited for her to post photos up, but she never did. Because she didn’t post pictures I asked her if she was really engaged because people liked to get Facebook engaged for some reason. To my astonishment she really was engaged. I saw her about four months later and the first thing I wanted to see was her ring. I grabbed her hand and to my amazement I saw Continue reading
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Today I had to read the story of creation for my Classical Mythology class and of course it included the story of Adam & Eve. I don’t care what your religious beliefs are 9 times out of 10 you will know the story of Adam & Eve even if you grew up in an atheist household you’ve had friends recant the story for you at least once. Well, while I was reading a this story (something I haven’t read in YEARS!) I realized how much power woman has had over man since the beginning of time. Despite Adam being here first and knowing that God told him not to eat from the Tree of Knowledge he caved in after Eve told him to try it out because it was good.
As we all know, Adam was lonely for a couple of years before God realized he needed a partner in life. It’s stated that “…a man shall leave his father and his mother and cling to his wife.” (Genesis 2: 25) Just reading the word “cling” makes me think that God was sitting Adam up for failure with this woman. Continue reading
Hey readers! I haven’t done a decent post in a minute and I apologize. So much has been going on in my life lately. I just turned 20 a few days ago, school started back up for Spring semester, and that means it’s study time. I couldn’t quite figure out what to write for you all because I was having a serious case of writer’s block, but that all just changed a few minutes ago. Why you ask? Well I have this….male. I met him during my 11th grade year of high school. My aunt had tried to hook me up with him because she said he was a nice, polite, and cute young man that worked out at her job bagging groceries. Well we use to talk and when we finally met up things didn’t go anywhere near expected. He was the first guy that I had actually talked to in hopes of being in a relationship so when we decided to meet up I was so worried. I had really low self-esteem back in my teenage years due to my acne so I prayed that when we met my personality would make him ignore the fact that I had teenage acne and left over scars. When he called me to figure out where I was he said, “I don’t see you. The only girl I see parked by the light pole is ugly.” At that moment my heart sunk. I was the girl at the light pole and it’s moments like this when our flight or fight response kicks in. I wanted to crank my car up and drive off, but in the back of my head I told myself no. I stayed and I met him. The one thing I remember about meeting him was when he told me, “I’m gonna take you out and show you things you’ve never seen before.” After our meeting he suddenly became…different. Continue reading
As I sat at home today cleaning I remembered awhile back one of my dorm mates was discussing with me how she had just broke-up with her first boyfriend after I told her my two year anniversary was approaching. I remember when I mentioned the length of my relationship she asked me what the key was to have a long-lasting relationship. Well I am not a relationship expert; in fact I’ve only dated one person. Despite these minor flaws I have managed to stay with that one person for two years and we are still together (for young adults those years are often viewed as being the equivalent to dog years.) I believe that there are common threads in all relationships that keep people together for 60 plus years and these same threads are what can cause a relationship to last only a few minor months. So here are a few things that I think are keys to a good relationship.
1. Laughter-I think there is nothing sexier than a man who can make me laugh. In fact, I’d probably date a butt ugly man who can make me laugh compared to a man who looked like Michael Ealy Continue reading
Well, well, well…this entire week I couldn’t figure out what in the hell I was gonna write on here after my last post (Click Here To Read) which got the most hits during my 3 week blog life. Then I went over to Necole Bitchie‘s blog and I had an idea. The post that’s linked up to this blog is a reader’s response to Ms. Bitchie calling the father of one of Erykah Badu’s children her “baby’s father.” The reader basically explained why she finds the word disgusting and I can’t agree/disagree with it more. Continue reading
Okay, I was over at Naked With Socks On and ran across an article titled Virgin Blues (Do Men Only Want Sex From A Woman?) that caught my attention. In a letter a 21 year old girl talks about how she met a guy who she TEXTED with for weeks and after about three times hanging out I believe he tried to get it or things were just getting a little too hot for her taste. When she realized what he wanted she decided to inform him that she was waiting on “Mr. Right,” whoever the hell that is. Now she stated that she wasn’t waiting until she got married to lose her virginity and if that’s the case, how do you know that you’ll have “Mr. Right?” Now I have no problem with people wanting to save their virginity, but don’t say you’re waiting on “Mr. Right” if you’re not waiting until marriage because honestly dating a guy two years and then giving up the goodies to him doesn’t mean he’s the one. Why do I say that? Well that boyfriend who waited two years of going without sex can leave you because 1.) He got what he wanted out of you. (Your virginity and sex). 2.) Something goes completely wrong in the relationship and it can’t be saved. I held the idea that I was going to wait until I got married, but then I started dating and realized that I was going to give into my teenage hormones before marriage because certain things feel good and I realized that I wanted to give into my curiousity of how it felt. Continue reading
I always LOVE the Essence magazine articles that are on love and relationships, they speech so much truth.
12 rules for a successful relationship:
1. Never yell unless there is a fire.
2. Your first romantic efforts are usually your tools for longevity never throw them away.
3. Always renovate the structure of your relationship nothing new can ever grow on old soil.
4. If you follow rule three you will remain in tact through any storm.
5. If one person is finance someone has to be management, each individual should respect the others job.
6. Sacrifice things that are in reason for the benefit of the relationship.
7. Give from your heart and never from your mouth for the heart has no mouth for speaking only actions for doing!
8. Listen to your partner don’t hear them! When you are truly listening you are not thinking of your rebuttal or contemplating your defense.
9. Want for your partner what you would want for yourself.
10. Saying that you are working on your bad habits is just an excuse for delaying the change. The cure is simple change the bad habit.
11. Keep the arguments clean and the sex dirty.
12. Communication is key Democritus Of Abdera said it best: “To do all the talking and not willing to listen is a form of greed.”
Nicholas “Sixx” King is a Los Angeles-based single father, producer, activist and author of the forthcoming book “Giving Love A Chance: The Secrets to Men, Women & Relationships.”