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When They Come Crawling Back

Posted in January 2010, Life with tags , , , , , , on January 8, 2010 by B. Jones

Hey readers!  I haven’t done a decent post in a minute and I apologize.  So much has been going on in my life lately.  I just turned 20 a few days ago, school started back up for Spring semester, and that means it’s study time.  I couldn’t quite figure out what to write for you all because I was having a serious case of writer’s block, but that all just changed a few minutes ago.  Why you ask?  Well I have this….male.  I met him during my 11th grade year of high school.  My aunt had tried to hook me up with him because she said he was a nice, polite, and cute young man that worked out at her job bagging groceries.  Well we use to talk and when we finally met up things didn’t go anywhere near expected.  He was the first guy that I had actually talked to in hopes of being in a relationship so when we decided to meet up I was so worried.  I had really low self-esteem back in my teenage years due to my acne so I prayed that when we met my personality would make him ignore the fact that I had teenage acne and left over scars.  When he called me to figure out where I was he said, “I don’t see you.  The only girl I see parked by the light pole is ugly.” At that moment my heart sunk.  I was the girl at the light pole and it’s moments like this when our flight or fight response kicks in.  I wanted to crank my car up and drive off, but in the back of my head I told myself no.  I stayed and I met him.  The one thing I remember about meeting him was when he told me, “I’m gonna take you out and show you things you’ve never seen before.” After our meeting he suddenly became…different. Continue reading

Keys to a Good Relationship

Posted in December 2009, Life, Relationship with tags , , , , , , on December 30, 2009 by B. Jones

As I sat at home today cleaning I remembered awhile back one of my dorm mates was discussing with me how she had just broke-up with her first boyfriend after I told her my two year anniversary was approaching.  I remember when I mentioned the length of my relationship she asked me what the key was to have a long-lasting relationship. Well I am not a relationship expert; in fact I’ve only dated one person.  Despite these minor flaws I have managed to stay with that one person for two years and we are still together (for young adults those years are often viewed as being the equivalent to dog years.)  I believe that there are common threads in all relationships that keep people together for 60 plus years and these same threads are what can cause a relationship to last only a few minor months.  So here are a few things that I think are keys to a good relationship.

1. Laughter-I think there is nothing sexier than a man who can make me laugh.  In fact, I’d probably date a butt ugly man who can make me laugh compared to a man who looked like Michael Ealy Continue reading

Things NOT To Say On Twitter: Swizz Beatz & Mashonda Edition

Posted in December 2009, Things NOT To Say On Twitter with tags , , , , , , , , , , on December 12, 2009 by B. Jones

If you were on Twitter last night following Swizz Beatz or Mashonda you would have witnessed some very sloppy and teenage antics.  I was never a follower of either of the above people, but one of the people that I’m following happened to mention how the former couple were venting through Twitter.  Being the nosy person I am I jumped onto following the two of them, and I was very SHOCKED to say the least.  Here’s the snapshots thanks to DDot Omen:

Now this is exactly why I don’t like things such as Twitter because sh*t like this is bound to go down.  This all happened because Swizz tweeted about going to get his girlfriend’s, Alicia Keys, new CD.  My feelings are as followed Continue reading

Why Do Women Say They’re Saving Their Virginity For “Mr. Right?”

Posted in December 2009, Relationship with tags , , , , on December 8, 2009 by B. Jones

Okay, I was over at Naked With Socks On and ran across an article titled Virgin Blues (Do Men Only Want Sex From A Woman?) that caught my attention.  In a letter a 21 year old girl talks about how she met a guy who she TEXTED with for weeks and after about three times hanging out I believe he tried to get it or things were just getting a little too hot for her taste.  When she realized what he wanted she decided to inform him that she was waiting on “Mr. Right,” whoever the hell that is.  Now she stated that she wasn’t waiting until she got married to lose her virginity and if that’s the case, how do you know that you’ll have “Mr. Right?”  Now I have no problem with people wanting to save their virginity, but don’t say you’re waiting on “Mr. Right” if you’re not waiting until marriage because honestly dating a guy two years and then giving up the goodies to him doesn’t mean he’s the one.  Why do I say that?  Well that boyfriend who waited two years of going without sex can leave you because 1.) He got what he wanted out of you.  (Your virginity and sex).  2.) Something goes completely wrong in the relationship and it can’t be saved. I held the idea that I was going to wait until I got married, but then I started dating and realized that I was going to give into my teenage hormones before marriage because certain things feel good and I realized that I wanted to give into my curiousity of how it felt. Continue reading

Is Being A Jealous Boyfriend Or Girlfriend A Bad Thing?

Posted in November 2009, Relationship with tags , , , , on November 19, 2009 by B. Jones

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Recently I was asked by a friend if I felt being a jealous boyfriend or girlfriend was a bad thing.  I know immediately the answer “YES!!!” pops up into just about everybody’s mind, but lets sit and think about it for a moment.    Sure no one wants somebody breathing down their neck 24/7, but if mate didn’t act a tiny bit jealous how would you feel?  I’ve been in a relationship for over 2 years and my boyfriend shows little to no jealousy at all.  I ask him about it especially when it comes to me hanging out with male friends why he acts as if he doesn’t care and his response is “I know he’s not your type so why be jealous?” Sometimes this would make me so upset because while I would be huffing and puffing over him talking to some girl I did or didn’t know he was just as cool, calm, and collective about me talking to a guy he didn’t know.  There were times when I would ask myself “What, does he think nobody out there wants me except for him?” which  when looking back makes me realize how immature I was to relationships.  (Note:  This is my first boyfriend)  I now realize that being jealous can be a blessing and a curse. Continue reading